Welcome to Permission Play, a revolutionary approach to intimacy, consent, and connection.
Here, communication is key, boundaries are respected, and exploration is encouraged—all in a safe, playful, and empowering way.
With our Yes / Maybe / No System, you and your partner can express desires, set clear boundaries, and navigate intimacy with confidence.
Whether you’re strengthening your relationship, exploring new experiences, or simply fostering open dialogue, Permission Play makes the process fun, respectful, and pressure-free.
Consent isn’t just necessary—it’s exciting!
Ready to explore? Let’s play.
Consent is the foundation of trust and intimacy. It empowers partners to express their boundaries openly and confidently, creating a safe and respectful space for connection.
Communication bridges the gap between desires and understanding. By sharing thoughts and feelings, couples can align their expectations and foster deeper emotional bonds.
Play brings fun and creativity to relationships. It encourages exploration in a lighthearted way, turning intimacy into a joyful and shared adventure.
By embracing the Yes / Maybe / No System, Permission Play makes navigating intimacy easy, removing uncertainty while fostering deeper trust, playfulness, and connection.
Get out there and dive into Permission Play
Join Michael Fray & Atlas at Erotic World in Valby, Copenhagen!
Experience engaging and thought-provoking talks on Permission Play, intimacy, and desire with sexologists Michael Fray and Atlas. Catch them live Thursday, Friday, and Saturday for inspiring sessions that explore communication, consent, and playful exploration in relationships.
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As children, we play all the time. We are curious, we explore, we laugh, and we enjoy ourselves. But as we grow up, responsibilities take over, and many of us forget how to play. We become efficient partners in handling daily life, but we lose the fun, excitement, and spontaneity that made our relationships special in the first place.
When we stop playing, we stop connecting deeply. Play is not just about having fun—it’s about staying close, feeling alive, and keeping the spark alive in a relationship. Play allows us to let go, be present, and share joy with our partner.
For many adults, the sexual space is one of the last places where play is still allowed. It’s where we can be curious, adventurous, and creative together. Permission Play is designed to help couples rediscover this sense of play in a way that is safe, pressure-free, and fun.
The website is designed as a quick and easy introduction to the Permission Play concept. It explains how it works and provides simple tips to help couples get started.
I wanted to make it accessible so that people can immediately understand the idea and apply it to their relationships—without feeling overwhelmed or needing to read a full book first.
For those who want a deeper dive, my book "Permission Play" provides a complete guide with exercises, real-life examples, and practical tools to make the concept part of everyday life.
Because “Permission Play” sounds way better than “Consent Fun” in Danish! 😄
There are so many modern concepts that use Play in their name, which makes it feel fresh, engaging, and playful. I also wanted a title that would resonate internationally, so keeping it in English made the most sense.
Let’s take an example of a couple, Mette and Anders, who have been together for ten years. They love each other, but their busy lives have made their sex life a bit routine. It’s good, but not very exciting anymore.
One day, Mette stumbles upon Permission Play and suggests they try it. They go to the website and read about the system. Then, they take a list of different ideas—ranging from romantic gestures to playful, adventurous experiences.
Each of them marks "Yes," "Maybe," or "No" on various suggestions and then they compare their answers.
To their surprise, they discover that they both marked "Maybe" on trying an erotic massage. They had never talked about it before, but now they realize they are both curious. Since it’s a Maybe for both, they decide to give it a try one weekend, knowing that it’s just for fun and there’s no pressure.
The magic of Permission Play is that it removes the guessing game and the fear of rejection. Couples don’t have to worry about saying the wrong thing or making things awkward. It’s all about creating a space where both partners feel safe and excited to explore together.
The website is a quick introduction with some basic tips to help couples understand the concept and try it out immediately.
The book goes much deeper. It’s a step-by-step guide that walks couples through the entire process, with real-life examples, exercises, and inspiration for how to integrate Permission Play into their relationship.
The book is for those who want to fully embrace the idea and make it a natural part of their love life.
The book is for any couple that wants to bring back playfulness, passion, and curiosity into their relationship.
Whether a couple is adventurous or reserved, Permission Play helps them connect, explore, and have fun together in a way that feels safe and exciting.
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